How do we grieve, in this new Covid world?

– An introduction to a four part Expert Counsel series

Steve Mitchell

Death is a part of life. It is normal. Grief is part of the process we use to cope with death and other major losses. It too is normal. Isolation? Isolation is necessary to fight a pandemic, but it is not, or should not be normal. Frankly, isolation and loneliness can be decimating.

The world has been turned upside down by Covid-19. I was speaking with a friend a few weeks ago, and her Uncle had just passed away. I offered words of solace. I wanted to give her a hug — but we cannot do that right now. In fact, I asked myself, how is it possible for her to grieve in times like this?

Kept away from our loved ones during hospitalization or hospice. Not able to have those last few days that I had with my own parents, and that I found so comforting. No funeral? No gathering of friends and family? Burial limited and social distancing in place? Are we to watch those closest to the loss and … perhaps let a tear drop, and then slowly walk away?

How do we cope with isolation, followed by death and grieving in days like these?

I had no idea. So I wrote an email to several experts whom I thought could help — I am obviously not alone with my questions. And from this email, this four part series was borne.

Over the next few days The Partners In Care Alliance will be posting a series written by experts on End-of-Life Care in isolation, Grief and loss from a distance, Dealing with the mortal remains / planning from a distance with family and Planning the eventual Memorial or Celebration of Life.

In times like this, words from those who have the experience, the knowledge and the caring can help us get through it. We are all in it together, and this is one way we hope to help.

Thank you.

Steve Mitchell

– Special Consultant with PICA

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